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Tomorrow afternoon Husband goes in for his Eco-Cardiogram. He turned in the Holter Monitor on Saturday morning. Hopefully by midweek we might finally have some answers.
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Well, I can say that I’ve listened to the CD for lesson 3 and it talks about how to use other roles like coaching, to help your kids and effective ways to do it. The other 2 roles escape me right now, but I did listen, honest.
I still need to read lesson 3 in the workbook, but with Husband’s medical stuff going on, we’ve been focused on that.
I can tell you that Scoober has been trying to push buttons and he’s really getting a smart mouth, which we are not standing for that in our house. I have to admit that I’ve raised my voice and even yelled during this stressful time and I feel badly that I did that. BUT, I do think Scoober is realizing that he cannot get away with his bad behavior and talking back and talking at us the way he does. He’s taking forever to get good behavior check marks on his chart we made before school started!
I’m determined to get back on track by the weekend and have lesson 3 read and work through the examples. I will try to post back on what it says, briefly, and what I am going to try with this lesson.
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I didn’t really share a whole lot, but Husband was having chest pains, aching in his muscles and some heart palpitations. Very scary stuff. He had his stress test and he did very well for not being in shape. 
He has a heart arrhythmia and throwing 3 pvc’s. He feels these happening and his neck buldges out like you think it’s going to explode as it’s beating.
Test results from stress test show that he has 100% oxygen flowing to his heart and through his blood, so that’s GREAT! There is NO blockage, so that is GREAT! Now, we have to figure out why the heart is doing this, so he is scheduled for a cardiogram and he’ll get to wear a monitor for 24 hours at some point either this week or next to see how the heart is working and what exactly is going on, hopefully.
In the meantime, Husband is still to take it easy, no strenuous activity. The Doctor, which we’ll call Doogie because he’s a young one, was very nice and seemed very knowledgeable. He changed his Rx, so we’ll see if it helps a little more with Husband’s triglycerides and bad cholesterol levels.
Got to get on Husband for not going in to get his blood work sooner. So, I asked if we could schedule that today so he doesn’t forget about it. 1 month, Husband will go in for bloodwork to check his levels again. Cannot let it go this long, almost a year since last blood test, when you’re on statins. Big no no!
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Hi everyone! So sorry I haven’t posted, but we’ve got some families health issues going on right now.
I will say that although I’ve listened to Lesson 3, but I’m going to have to listen to it again. I’ve just continued working on myself in how I deal with Scoober. I’ve raised my voice a few times, but Im trying not to yell. He did get a little lippy with me yesterday, but I stuck to my guns and he wasn’t changing my mind. For the past 2 mornings he’s given me trouble about getting up. I wake him up, tell him what time it is, tell him breakfast is ready, that we are leaving at 8:15am. If he’s not ready, I simply say that Winks and I will be in the van please shut the door and make sure it’s locked when you come out. He was almost late yesterday, but he’s got to learn about time management. He was awake, he was just doddling.
I will hopefully be able to listen to Lesson 3 tonight and start working on that next week. I will update about Lesson 3, what it’s about and what I took from it. Then post during the week on our progress. With pending medical issues, forgive me if I don’t post right away, as my family is my number 1 priority.
I have a wonderful family. News of a death in Newfoundland of a young cousin of Husband’s today; not so great news of Husband’s blood results and a terrible, manipulative, mean letter from CA today. I don’t think this day can get any worse!
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I really don’t like waiting until a doctor’s office opens to get test results. Especially since I’ve been up since 6:30am!
I was going to start Lesson 3 on Wednesday, but I decided to just wait and start that on Monday.
A few more behaviors last night.
- Scoober was giving me a hard time about finishing his dinner. This was at 6:30pm, he had already eaten 1 1/2 ears of corn and picked at the rest of his dinner. Me and Husband told himhe had to eat his chicken if nothing else. He took a bite of mac and cheese and was saying he was so full. We stood our ground when other times we would’ve let him get up and he would’ve had to eat that if he got hungry later. He’s gotten smart about this, b/c he can put it in the fridge and he will just go to bed and not eat anything else to get out of it. So, we made him eat and by the time I was out from my shower at 7pm, he had eaten every piece.
- Scoober then had to do his homework, which was extremely easy, but he dragged his feet doing that. He was really tired and we knew that, so we didn’t harp on him too much on him going so slowly doing it; at least he was doing it, right?
- Then it was time for his shower. In the past, Scoober has said he wants me to sit on the toilet and talk to him about the coming days events, etc. I’ve stopped doing this b/c he’s getting a little old for Mommy to sit in the bathroom with him while he showers. I ran his water for him and turned on the shower, which I need to stop doing b/c he can do that himself, and he took his shower on his own without me just fine.
- Then, it was 7:45pm and finally we could go read his book that he was wanting to read. Winks was already put to bed and I was free to hang out with Scoober to read. Lights went out at 8:20pm and all was good.
I am so proud of myself for making the effort to change my behaviors. I still need some work, I do things for Scoober that I know he can do, he’s just gotten use to me doing it for him. So, I’m making him more responsible by enabling him to do things himself. Sometimes he makes a mess, but hey, that’s how we learn.
I’m going to listen to Lesson 3 possibly tonight and read the workbook a couple times to gear up for next week. I’ll post about Lesson 3 this weekend or by Monday. So far so good!
You know, when you’re tired and exhausted, it’s hard not to loose your cool. I’m not perfect and I don’t plan on ever being perfect. Today I was a little loud, not yelling or screaming, but I had to raise my voice a few more times than I would’ve liked. A couple times, I probably didn’t have to, but I did.
I did not give into temptation to just let Scoober have what he wanted though, so that was a win. He didn’t feel like eating dinner, so I gave him 2 choices, he either did his homework and then eats dinner, or goes to bed and he didn’t get credit for his homework. He chose the first choice. I still think giving him choices is a good thing, but he only gets 2, it’s either one or the other, no in between. He used to give us another choice, but not anymore.
All in all, not a bad day, just tough for me. It’s harder for me, because I’ve got to watch and control my behavior to correct Scoobers. Now Winks is starting her tantrum phase and it’s a whole new deal with her. With Scoober, we had to keep him quiet due to the environment we were in, so most of the time we catered to him everytime he cried, whined, etc. Now that we are out of that environment and I can let Winks figure some stuff out on her own, it may be a little different at this age the 2nd time around.
So, you hear those commercials on the radio sometimes and you think to yourself, would this work for me? Well, after a couple years of behavior that seems to keep escalating in defiance, talking back and disrespect; Husband and I have decided to try the Total Transformation program by James Lehman.
We are in week 2, lesson 2 of the program. We’ve had almost an entire week of no yelling by either parent or child. It is giving me and Husband a little insight to why Scoober may behave the way he does and how he’s learned how certain behavior gets a reaction or a result that he either wants or needs.
We are having a good success early on and it is taking committment by both me and Husband to make it work. No family is perfect and we don’t want perfection, but we do want peace and a quieter environment.
I’ll try to share week by week our progress and what each lesson shares.
Lesson 1 is observing behavior.
Lesson 2 is figuring out your Parenting Role, which I have about 4 different ones; Martyr, Screamer, Negotiator, and Perfectionist. I also exhibit the Deep Pockets role, as well because I sometimes will buy Scoober things to make myself feel better about the way I treated him.
I’m finding a lot about myself in the process and am realizing that there are other ways to deal with situations.
Last night was one of the best nights with Scoober I can remember. We had a peaceful night after dinner we did puzzles and read his Boys Life Magazine before going to bed. I think it makes him feel good too seeing that Mommy doesn’t get all upset all the time. Of course, this is a work in progress and I don’t always feel like I’m doing it right, but I just take a deep breath and do my best.
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Sorry about not updating. It’s so busy around here now, and with me working, time is limited.
We are all doing well. Husband switched jobs and has a little more peace in the workplace. Scoober has decided that he doesn’t want to run track; too much running, so he will concentrate on basketball. (I was never a good track runner either. Hated all that running!) Winks is such a character. She is a drama queen, oh brother! She is silly, does some of the cutest faces, and she just loves her brother. Let’s hope that continues over the years.
I am doing good. I’ve kind of been stuck on my weight. I’ve just got to make time to do some abdominal exercises. Just seems that I’m always on the go, and the little time I do have I just want to relax and hang out. It will come off, just 20 lbs to my goal, I just need to make it a priority again.
Paying down our debt is slow going. We’ve decided that paying off our car by the end of the year to free up a larger sum to actually pay off the other debts quicker made more sense. So, I’m putting an extra amount each month towards the car payment and it should be paid off 7 months early. Then we can really start to accelerate payoff of the rest of our debt.
Well, I guess that catches us up for now. No big plans for summer. Still debating whether me and the kids will fly back to KY, so we’ll see.
Oh, Husband and Scoober are going camping next weekend at the Scout camp here in Colorado. Should be fun and Ill have to update with pictures when they return. It will just be me and Winks for 3 days, wonder what we can do?
We will all be camping out in July for the first time EVER. The Cub Scout Pack is having a fun weekend campout here in the town we live in. Should be fun!
